Before diving into the erotic world of bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism, you need to familiarise yourself with the lingo. Some of these terms you surely would have heard before, others, not so much.

Here’s a quick guide for you kinkster beginners!

 

– Dominant/Dom: The person who holds the authority and takes the dominant role in the BDSM activities.

– Submissive/Sub: The person who submits to the dominant person in the BDSM activities.

– Sadist: A person who is sexually aroused by inflicting pain and humiliation on others.

– Masochist: A person who is sexually aroused by their own experience of pain and humiliation.

– Pain Slut: A name given to someone who enjoys an extreme level of pain.

– Kink: A sexual act that is considered to be unconventional, like BDSM.

– Vanilla Sex: A term coined by the kink community to describe conventional sex.

– Fetish: A sexual desire for an act, object or part of the body other than the sexual organs.

– Play: Any wide variety of kinky activities. Including both physical and mental activities.

– Scene: Referring to the BDSM activities as well as the setting it takes place in.

– Consent: Mutual agreement to terms of action in a BDSM scene or relationship.

– Contract: A written or oral agreement of specific terms, rules, and structure of the relationship.

– Hard Limits: A non-negotiable where the partner simply refuses to do a specific BDSM activity.

– Soft Limits: A soft limit has some flexibility, where the partner is hesitant to engage in the specific BDSM activity. However, there is room to believe that they could be willing to try the activity.

– Safe Word: An agreed-upon codeword that the bottom can use to end the scene or sex session altogether. Usually, this codeword is a colour or fruit.

– Training: The dominant will teach the submissive how to act and behave to please them. This training can be for a short period of time or ongoing.

– 24/7: A relationship where some form of BDSM protocols are always in place.

– Top: The person who is performing the BDSM action.

– Bottom: The person who is receiving the BDSM sensation.

– Topping from the Bottom: When a bottom tries to take control during a scene when it had been agreed that they are to relinquish control to the dominant partner.

– Switch: A person who likes playing in both the dominant and submissive roles.

– Drop: After a scene, both tops and bottoms can experience an emotional and physical low.

– Aftercare: When the scene is over, usually a top administers emotional and physical care to the bottom. This is done to ease or even prevent the drop.

– Bondage: The act of physically restraining the submissive by tying, binding, or cuffing.

– Erotic Sexual Denial: This is where the dominant will deny the submissive orgasm to increase sexual arousal and eventually a more intense release.

– Post-orgasm Torture: The dominant will continuously bring the submissive to orgasm to the point where the sensation is uncomfortable and even painful for the submissive.

– Breath Play: Restricting breath to enhance sensation or pleasure. Typically done by choking.

– Edge Play: Activities that are considered intense or dangerous, such as knife play or fire play.

– Knife Play: This is an edge play activity that uses a knife to enhance a sexual experience.

– Impact Play: Activities that involve striking the body, such as spanking, flogging or whipping.

– Sensation Play: Activities that involve sensory stimulation, such as pouring hot wax onto the submissive body or tickling the submissive.

– Humiliation Play: Activities that involve verbal or physical humiliation, such as name-calling and spitting on the submissive.

– Role Play: When one or more people act out a particular scene or fantasy, such as doctor-patient, or master-slave.

 

Now that you know the terms, it is time to put your knowledge to good use! If you cannot wait to get your BDSM kink on, call Black Lace Escorts on 0400 774 488 to arrange your erotic fantasy.